Emotional Intelligence for Healthy Relationships
The first step in making positive life and relationship change happens when you recognize "I don't like this and I want to change it now". Nothing happens unless you take the next step towards the right actions. Coaching will support you to take those action steps. If and when you second-guess yourself, it feels good to know you are no longer alone.
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Book a SessionThe Avoidant Detox Masterclass
Why You Can't Let Go of the Avoidant (And How to Finally Break Free)
Monday, August 3rd, 2026 at 5:00 PM EST
You know they’re emotionally unavailable.
You know the relationship is hurting you.
You know you deserve better.
So why does letting go feel impossible?
If you’ve been discarded, breadcrumbed, ghosted, or trapped in the exhausting push-pull cycle with an avoidant partner, you’re not “crazy,” weak, or incapable of moving on. Your attachment system has become activated in ways that make breaking free incredibly difficult.
In this powerful 90-minute live masterclass, Coach Ryan Holley will explain exactly why avoidant relationships become so emotionally addictive—and, more importantly, how to finally break the cycle.
You’ll leave with a clear understanding of what’s happening inside your mind and body, along with practical tools to stop chasing, stop overanalyzing, and begin reclaiming your peace.
In this masterclass, you’ll learn:
-Why avoidant relationships feel so addictive.
-Why you can’t simply “move on.”
-How intermittent reinforcement keeps you emotionally hooked.
-The biggest mistakes people make after an avoidant pulls away.
-How to stop chasing, pleading, and abandoning yourself.
-The boundaries that help you finally detach.
-How to begin building secure attachment so you stop repeating the same relationship pattern.
Your registration includes:
✔️ Live 90-minute masterclass
✔️ Live Q&A with Coach Ryan
✔️ Lifetime replay access
✔️ Watch from anywhere in the world
This isn’t about changing the avoidant.
It’s about changing what keeps you emotionally attached to them—so you can finally break free.
Monday, August 3, 2026
5:00 PM EST
Investment: $99
The Secure Attachment Academy
AÂ 6-Week Live Group Coaching Program
Starts Tuesday, August 18th, 2026 • 5:30 PM EST
Stop Chasing emotionally unavailable people. Stop abandoning yourself. Start becoming securely attached.
For years, I’ve helped thousands of people understand dismissive avoidants, fearful avoidants, anxious attachment, and the painful relationship patterns that keep them stuck. But understanding your ex is only the beginning.
The Secure Attachment Academy is my flagship 6-week live coaching program designed to help you heal the attachment wounds driving unhealthy relationship patterns, develop secure attachment, build healthy boundaries, regulate your emotions, strengthen your self-worth, and finally create the healthy, secure relationships you deserve.
This isn’t about changing your avoidant.
It’s about transforming you.
During this 6-week journey, you’ll learn how to:
-Break the cycle of chasing, overthinking, and self-abandonment.
-Heal the attachment wounds keeping you stuck.
-Build healthy boundaries without guilt or fear.
-Regulate anxiety and stop seeking external validation.
-Develop genuine confidence and emotional security.
-Recognize emotionally healthy partners and build lasting, secure relationships.
Whether you’re recovering from an avoidant relationship, struggling with anxious attachment, or simply ready to stop repeating the same painful patterns, this program will provide the guidance, accountability, and support you need to create lasting change.
Enrollment Options
Standard Enrollment — $497
Includes:
-Full 6-week live Secure Attachment Academy
-Weekly live coaching sessions
Lifetime access to all session replays
-Worksheets and homework
-Private online community
-Live Q&A during every session
VIP Enrollment — $997
Includes everything in Standard Enrollment, plus:
-Three private 50-minute 1:1 coaching sessions with Coach Ryan (a $897 value)
-Personalized guidance tailored to your unique situation
-Priority scheduling for your private coaching sessions
The Secure Attachment Academy is my flagship coaching program and is offered only four times per year. If you miss enrollment, the next opportunity to join won’t be for several months.
Enrollment is now open. Reserve your spot today and begin your journey toward secure attachment on Tuesday, August 18 at 5:30 PM EST.
Relationship Repair Intensive
Repair the Relationship. Rebuild Emotional Safety. Reconnect.
Starts Tuesday, August 4th at 4:00 PM EST
Only $297 USD per couple
Every relationship experiences conflict. But when the same arguments keep repeating, emotional distance grows, and communication breaks down, it can begin to feel like you’re speaking two different languages.
The Relationship Repair Intensive is a live, two-week attachment-based coaching program designed for couples who are both committed to strengthening and repairing their relationship.
This isn’t traditional couples therapy. Instead, you’ll learn the attachment dynamics that drive conflict, emotional disconnection, defensiveness, withdrawal, and unhealthy communication patterns—then you’ll receive practical, evidence-informed tools to begin repairing them together.
During this live intensive, you’ll learn how to:
Identify the unhealthy attachment patterns keeping your relationship stuck.
Break the anxious/avoidant cycle and other destructive communication patterns.
Communicate more effectively without escalating conflict.
Rebuild emotional safety, trust, and intimacy.
Repair after disagreements instead of allowing resentment to build.
Develop a practical roadmap for creating a healthier, more secure relationship.
What’s Included:
-Two live 75-minute coaching sessions
-Live Q&A during each session
-Lifetime access to both replays
-Downloadable worksheets and relationship exercises
-Practical attachment-based tools you can begin using immediately
This program is ideal for couples who:
-Feel emotionally disconnected or distant.
-Keep having the same unresolved arguments.
-Want to rebuild trust after repeated conflict.
-Are both willing to take accountability and invest in the relationship.
-Want practical, attachment-based guidance they can immediately apply.
Whether one partner is anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of one another, learn healthier ways to navigate conflict, and begin rebuilding the emotional connection your relationship deserves.
Program Details
Start Date: Tuesday, August 4th
Time: 4:00 PM EST
Duration: Two weeks
Session Length: 75 minutes each
Investment: Only $297 USD per couple
Includes: Live sessions, Q&A, worksheets, and lifetime replay access.
If both of you are ready to stop repeating the same painful cycle and start building a healthier relationship together, we’d love to have you join us.
Enroll in Relationship Repair Intensive (click here)The Avoidant Recovery Bundle
Stop obsessing. Stop spiraling. Start healing.
If you’ve been trapped in the painful cycle of:
breadcrumbing,
emotional confusion,
obsessive thoughts,
trauma bonding,
nervous system dysregulation,
and trying to understand why your avoidant partner pulled away…
this bundle was created for you.
The Avoidant Recovery Bundle contains some of my most powerful and requested workshops designed to help you:
understand avoidant attachment deeply,
break trauma bonds,
stop chasing closure,
regulate your nervous system,
detach from breadcrumbing,
rebuild your self-worth,
and finally begin healing.
Included Workshops:
The Avoidant Detox
Stop Thinking About Them
Breaking the Breadcrumb Cycle
The Avoidant Trap
The Trauma Loop
Includes:
âś” Lifetime replay access
âś” Watch at your own pace
âś” Immediate access upon purchase
This isn’t about getting your avoidant ex back.
It’s about getting YOU back.
Investment: $197
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"Transforming You, Transforming Love: A 26-Week Roadmap to Fulfilling Relationships"
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Ready to break the cycle of disappointing relationships and create the loving partnership you crave? "Transforming Your Relationships" is your 26-week guide to transformative growth and healthier romance. This practical roadmap helps you:
- Clarify your non-negotiable needs
- Develop self-awareness and confidence
- Master effective communication and boundaries
- Recognize red flags and navigate challenges
- Understand your emotional needs
- Attract a value-aligned partner
This isn't just a relationship book – it's a transformative journey to become a more authentic, empowered person. When you take this journey you will better recognize and attract healthy relationships.
Your investment in this guide is an investment in your happiness and future. For just $5.99, you can learn practical steps on how to break free from unhealthy patterns and start building the relationship you deserve.
Secure your copy now and embark on the path to lasting love. Your journey starts here.
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One-on-One Coaching
The only way to realize the change you need and want is for you to invest your time, energy, and resources to make it so. If you do not act, you can expect more of the same results. Time alone doesn't heal wounds. Time plus right action leads to healing and positive change.
During coaching sessions, we can deconstruct your specific relationship interactions and help you build awareness of self and other. We will help you build the skills that set you on the path to having emotionally intimate relationships in the future.
We offer almost 20% off the individual session price when you book the 3 session plan and close to 30% off when you book the 5 session plan.
Choose a coaching bundle and boost your coaching session with the addition of one or more courses. Bundles also give you a discount off the regularly scheduled course price.
Courses to Build Emotional Intelligence
People are not born with emotional intelligence (EQ). Emotional intelligence is learned. We learn emotional intelligence when the behaviors of healthy, emotionally secure people are modeled to us as children. We can also learn it by studying the skills that emotionally intelligent people use and then putting these skills into practice.Â
We offer our foundational course in building emotional intelligence. It can help you expand your capacity for recognizing and engaging in healthy relationships. It contains hours of easy to consume video and practical exercises.
Accelerate your wellness journey and save money at the same time. Check out our Coaching and Course Bundles in the Coach Ryan Store.
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The Dos and Don'ts Roadmap - rules for healthy romantic relationships
This is our brand-new course that concisely spells out the vital red and green flags for healthy relationships.Â
- Infographic of the Dos and Don'ts for easy reference
- Find out your attachment style quiz
- Videos and text discussion of the rules
- Discussion of the relationship challenges of each attachment style.
- Helps you build awareness of what a healthy relationship looks like and if yours is unhealthy
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Gaslighting Defense and Recovery Course Now Available
This is a five-module course to help you identify, protect against and recover from gaslighting in your personal and workplace relationships. The course has 4 modules of video and transcript plus a module of practical exercises for you to build emotional resiliency.
Email subscribers will also get brief, periodic communication and relationship skills tips.
When you buy any of our courses, you will have the option to subscribe to the email updates. Or simply subscribe below.
Fall Back Into Savings
We are happy to offer a substantial "back to school" discount for one week.
Discounts of 20-33% off depending on the package level chosen.
Don't forget...you can choose a payment plan at checkout. This means you can still fall back iinto your wellness journey today
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FREE GIFT
Learn 5 Easy Phrases to be a More Effective Communicator
Our Free Active Listening/Clean Language skills course helps you communicate in an authentic, fair way so you can stop second-guessing yourself.
I Want to Be a More Effective CommunicatorNICE TO MEET YOU
I'm Ryan Holley
We all have our stories about life's ups and downs. Little did I know that one of the worst times of my life would end up being the so-called "blessing in disguise".
Our deepest learnings often come from what we initially perceive to be failure. Â
Now I use my own personal struggle and success to help people just like you identify relationship health.Â
The truth is simple. There really aren't any failures if we can accept the feedback about what didn't work and learn from it.Â
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Read a Bit More About Me
"Thank you for your videos. I can't tell you how much they mean to me. I often feel very alone in my grief but hearing you talk about anxious and avoidant relationships brings me comfort. I feel heard and seen even if it is not by the person I want. I hope that makes sense."
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"I can't begin to tell you how bang on you are, everything you say resonates with me. I've done a lot of reading, watching, listening and learning and you have dialed it in just that much closer. I got sabotaged not knowing what an Avoidant is let alone ever hearing that word. Thanks for your help."
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"Good morning from Australia.... thank-you for the great work you are doing. It helps to know I am not alone, absolutely normal and I can hold my head up high knowing I loved him to the best of my ability and it is time to let him go."
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ONLINE COURSES
Foundational Emotional Intelligence Course and more
Find out how to create the path to emotional intimacy in your primary and other important relationships with the Emotional Intelligence course.
Build a more empowered, authentic self with the Gaslighting Defense and Recovery Course.
Now both of these courses are discounted by 50% as we build our Dating Rules Roadmap for Healthy Romantic Relationships.Â
The Dating Rules Roadmap will reference the material in both the Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and the Gaslighting Defense and Recovery courses.
We encourage you to get both courses while the discount exists.
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Emotional IntelligenceÂ
Hours of video and practical exercises to build emotional regulation and competency.
Specific Relationship Issue Courses
Mini, informative and easy to consume series on TikTok.
Gaslighting Defense and RecoveryÂ
Hours of Coach Ryan Video, text, and practical exercises to rediscover and fortify your authentic self. Become confident in your ability to recognize relationship destroying gaslighting behaviors.
Discover the Truth Behind Gaslighting
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Need Help with Couples & Partnership Dynamics?
Ryan’s work focuses on helping individuals build secure emotional intelligence and healthier attachment patterns in relationships - foundational growth that strengthens your capacity to connect deeply. Â
If you and your partner are seeking dedicated couples coaching to grow emotional connection, communication, and relational resilience, you may benefit from my specialized work:
I’m a relationship and couples coach trained in Relationship Life Modes for Coaching, with a track record of helping partners build:
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Emotional intelligence and self-awareness in relationship contexts
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Compassion, empathy, and mutual understanding
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Attachment-informed communication patterns
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Conflict navigation and relational safety
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A deeper, healthier partnership foundation
I work with both faith-based couples who wish to integrate spiritual values with relational growth, as well as non-spiritual clients, using neuroscience-informed and attachment psychology principles to help you understand how your nervous system, emotions, and interpersonal patterns influence your connection.
If you’re ready to bring intentional growth into your relationship, you can learn more about my couples coaching services here: couples coaching
Lori Olson, a member or the Coach Ryan Team, is a licensed private practice psychotherapist acting as team consultant and collaborative partner in course building.
She has been helping 1000s of people build competencies in emotional self-management for more than a decade.
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Greatest Discount Coaching and Course BundleDisclaimer: The client is aware that the coaching relationship is not therapy. My coaching does not replace professional services such as legal, medical, or psychological advice. Clients agree that they are entering into coaching with the understanding that clients are responsible for their own decisions and results. The information I give is an opinion and although it is based on sound psychological principles, none of these opinions should be construed as professional therapeutic advice. The client agrees to hold the coach free from all liability for any actions or results for adverse situation created as a direct or indirect result of information given by the coach.
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Session Contact Procedure and Refund Policy: The client shall contact the coach at the agreed hour. All individual sessions and session packages are non-refundable once purchased. Sessions may be rescheduled with a minimum of 24 hours' notice. Missed sessions or late cancellations are considered used. In rare circumstances, unused sessions may be credited towards future coaching, at the sole discretion of Coach Ryan. Refunds are not provided for changes in personal circumstances, readiness, or availability. If a client no shows and does not email the coach stating they are going to be late for the session, the coach will wait 10 minutes for the client. Once 10 minutes has passed and the client has not shown up or communicated, the session will be considered a no show.
By completing this purchase, you acknowledge that you are choosing coaching intentionally and understand that refunds are not provided for changes of mind or emotional uncertainty.
Coaching is a time-reserved, capacity-limited service. When you enroll, time, preparation, and resources are allocated specifically for you and cannot be reliably reassigned. Coaching is most effective when entered with intention and commitment, not as a trial or test. For this reason, all coaching purchases are non-refundable.Â
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"Good morning. Thank you for posts. As a trauma therapist, I do a lot of work with attachment trauma and your posts are a great way for people to better understand why they feel the way they do. Knowledge is power. There are a ton a ton of wanna be therapists and life coaches on IG, your content is helpful and easy to understand. Be well".
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Couples' Therapist
"Hey, I have tears in my eyes as I write this. I cannot, seriously cannot thank you enough, for what you’re doing for me right now. I listened to 15 of your videos over my home stereo while doing things to process my pain. As a couples’ therapist, I am embarrassed and feel shame around my unhealed patterns which I though I worked through so much. But as an empath and my work doesn’t help with this, I have a difficult time discerning between what is really happening as a true experience or if I’m acting as a savior to love in hope the love is returned. You are healing me. Please, Ryan, for all that is good and whole in the world, please keep doing what you are doing. So much love to you. Keep the videos coming. I am getting better. Thank you from the bottom of my bottomless heart".
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